Are you stupid? What is stupidity? I would have immediately assumed it refers to people of a lower intellect. I’m sure you do too. Have you ever sat alone quietly and wondered, “Am I stupid?” Or how about this question, “If I were stupid, would I know it?” I doubt anyone would admit to it! As logic would demand, a stupid person might float through life completely oblivious to the fact of their state of existence. They would surely say and do stupid things thinking they’re making wonderful additions to the potjiekos pot of life. In reality everyone can’t help uttering, (out of earshot) “what an idiot!”
Okay, here’s another question: Have you ever read one of those funny internet lists highlighting stupid people’s actions and thought, “Haha, I can relate!” If so, you’re in trouble.
According to wiktionary:
stupid (comparative stupider or more stupid, superlative stupidest or most stupid)
- Lacking in intelligence or exhibiting the quality of having been done by someone lacking in intelligence.
- Because it’s a big stupid jellyfish!
- To the point of stupor.
- Neurobiology bores me stupid.
- (archaic) Characterized by or in a state of stupor; paralysed. [quotations ▼]
- 1702 Alexander Pope, Sappho 128:
- No sigh to rise, no tear had pow’r to flow, Fix’d in a stupid lethargy of woe.
- (archaic) Lacking sensation; inanimate; destitute of consciousness; insensate. [quotations ▼]
- 1744 George Berkeley, Siris §190:
- Were it not for [fire], the whole wou’d be one great stupid inanimate mass.
- (slang) Amazing.
- That dunk was stupid! His head was above the rim!
- (slang) damn, annoying, darn
- I fell over the stupid wire.
In my view, this is a little limited. I would like to add my succinct list of descriptions. Please refrain from saying “Oh that’s me” until you’ve read them all. This may save a little time in the long run: If you do the following, please realise, you may be at risk of being or becoming stupid:
1) The educated person speaking above the level of aptitude of the uneducated or uninformed. If you do not understand the above statement, that makes ME stupid! Since communication and the communication of ideas needs two or more participants, speaking above the fireplace of your participant is rather pointless and short sighted. There are people who might agree with this statement, yet do precisely that. All the time! Such people speak for their own benefit. They love the sound of their words. Albert Einstein said that if you cannot explain a concept to a child so THEY understand, you do not have a good enough grasp of the concept yourself. Speaking for your benefit alone is STUPID.
2) The know-it-all speaking to the uninterested. If you are speaking about a concept you think you have a pretty good understanding of, and the other participant(s) are just nodding their heads offering the occasional “mm” or “yep”, please realise that you might be committing this STUPID act. There are of course those among us that would never realise that they are engaging in this pointless act and would take the “mm” and “yeps” as affirmations of the amazing wealth of knowledge/wisdom currently being imparted upon them. They are not affirmations. They are hints of “Please hurry up and shut up!”
Sometimes its not a know-it-all at all. There are ‘the ramblers.’ You’ll know it if you are one. People eventually let you know that you don’t give them a chance to get a word in edgewise. In the end, people will largely avoid conversing with a rambler, since there’s not much conversing happening in the first place. It’s more like attending a speech. Who likes doing that?! Besides ‘the rambler,’ there’s perpetuous interruptus. You think you are going to say something, but three words in, perpetuous interruptus will take over your sentence, either trying to finish it for you; finishing it incorrectly for you (forcing you to say “no, that’s not what I meant); or completely obliterating your train of thought by changing the subject to something completely unrelated and only interesting to them.
3) The gossip. (The person trying to make others look bad) Should you find yourself discussing with others: a person currently not in your presence (in a negative light), referring to often exaggerated or twisted factoids or happenstances or misinterpreted actions of that person, you are a gossip. Just know that should you realise that you are guilty, also know that the people you are currently gossiping to are wondering what negative things are being said about them in their absence. Most people realise they are not excluded from the gossip cycle. To think you have people fooled is foolish. In Afrikaans there is the term, “skinderbek” Roughly translated it means “gossip mouth.” This is a term for a habitual gossip, and such people are routinely avoided in the long run. Most people eventually realise that a gossip is poisonous. To be a gossip is STUPID.
The inverse applies. To participate in a gossip-fest thinking you are a specially included in the gossip’s circle, or to think you are exempt from gossip when you are not present is completely foolish. Be wary of the habitual gossip. You are definately not exempt. You are not part of an exclusive circle. You are simply an audience, an not even a worthy one. Your most valuable attribute to a gossip is that you are within earshot.
4) The person who loses their temper over petty incidences.
How many times have you cringed at the vocal outbursts of someone? How often has such an outburst been warranted? Frustrations do build, but to go bananas apeshit over nothing is STUPID.
5) The person who offers no common politeness as a matter of principle.
If you are aiming to further your career, network amongst people or groups, or simply gain the respect from you subordinates or peers, politeness is the way to go. Saying please, thank you, excuse me, and smiling a polite smile on occasion earns plenty points (when sincere). To obtain opposite results, don’t be polite. I’m not even speaking about those that are impolite. Such people are just assholes! To desire respect while not excersising common politeness is just STUPID.
If you are rude to your waitron simply because they are a waitron, you may be looking for a little saliva in your sauce. To think a waitron deserves such terrible treatment is misguided. Common courtesy is free and the pleasure at an unexpected kind word may just be invaluable to someone who rarely receives them.
6) Those elder people who expect respect simply because they are older.
How many times have you had to bite your tongue simply because the person you’re speaking to is older and you don’t want to show disrespect?
How many of those older people are complete wallies who don’t deserve an ounce of respect?
Simply because I’m older, doesn’t mean everyone else has to listen to my wise old words, experience or lessons. To expect younger, less experienced people or young adults to sit quietly with folded hands lapping up your every word is pretty short sighted and slightly narcissistic. Let’s just agree that to demand respect based on the amount of times you’ve been around the sun is pretty STUPID. A wise older person displays respect in order to teach it.
7) The person who confuses fear with respect
This is more for the boss/supervisor relationship. A fearful workforce will avoid telling you about critical problems, will be demotivated, will talk trash behind your back, and will do just the necessary work ensuring they don’t have to deal with you. Above all, they will never respect you. Those ‘military general types’ that believe that fear = respect need to re-evaluate how their workforce view them. If your workforce scatter when you enter the room, you should know there’s a problem.
The inverse is true (once again). Everyone knows of at least one co-worker who speaks to superiors as though they’re his/her buddy. They obviously feel that doing so makes them stand out. It surely does: in the wrong way.
Doing so just comes off as being cocky and disrespectful. It places a manager in an uncomfortable position since it places the respect of all other subordinates in jeopardy. To treat your boss like a buddy is like scratching the lions balls. (They only enjoy it for a while)
8) The social bully.
You may think everything is easy, you may think it’s not your problem to worry about the socially inept or awkward. It may not be your problem at all, yet to socially bully someone who does not quite fit in is cowardly. It does not show your strength, it shows weakness of character. A socially strong person recognises those who struggle to fit in and accepts them as such. To step on someone’s fingers while they’re holding on for dear life is STUPID.
9) The materially competitive.
Ever notice that buying something new can sometimes result in a mass purchase craze by other people you know. This is often followed by invitations to eat dinner at their house. Ever heard kids boast about how much their toys cost. There is only one way they can have knowledge of this. (Goes without saying)
Is winning a materialistic war not a little phyrric? Was the money well spent? It’s a little like the exercise equipment (we all seem to have in our houses) we bought with every good intention that after two weeks becomes a white elephant. It’s a slightly unfulfilling, pointless pursuit. It’s highly annoying if you do participate and get no recognition! In the end, it’s maybe wiser to buy something you really want for you, not because you saw someone else has it.
10) Those who habitually moan yet make no effort to change their own circumstances.
We all know of at least one person who does this. If you find yourself rehashing the same moans day after day, and you have made no plans to change your circumstances, I am afraid you may be expressing a healthy dose of STUPID.
Pity the humble bumble bee who crashes into the wall over and over. In related stupidity, those who dwell on the past for months on end need to see the STUPID doctor. We are afforded limited time : treasure the good memories, learn from the bad. The wise recognise the present to be all-important and take time to appreciate its power. Are you someone that seems to want to relive former days or are so broken by events long gone? It would be wise to know that you are still breathing and experiencing. Make them good ones.
11) The compulsive liar.
I think we can all agree, it’s one of those priceless moments when you know someone is lying (for a fact) and you let them ramble on, stringing ever more threads to their made up story. Are you one of those who let them know you know, or do you leave them in their their falseness?
I tend to let them know, right at the end, after cracking with laughter internally. The face of a caught liar is priceless. I do however tend to become angry at the fact that they attempted to fool me, simultaneously insulting my intelligence. Life is full of stresses, complications and a string of todo’s and don’ts and please don’t forgets. I don’t need the extra weight of a lie to maintain. To complicate your life further is an obvious STUPID trait. If you are one who does this, just know that everyone knows you are a liar. The majority of people don’t want to let you know they’re on to you. They are not so concerned that they would risk unnecessary confrontation. To think that no one knows of your habitual lying is STUPID.
12) If you constantly feel the need to validate yourself by expressing your greatest traits or achievements.
The fact that you feel the need to validate is itself an indication of your ineptitude. The confident content person doesn’t need to focus on being confident or content. As a rule, when you feel the need to say ‘I,’ don’t.
Reflect (internally) on what you wanted to speak about and try to root out why you wanted to speak about it in the first place. Failure to follow this advice is STUPID. This would include those that are vain. To love yourself is the greatest love (says Whitney) but to be enamoured by your looks or persona is to miss out on all the wondrous goings on around you.
13) The sychophant
If you didn’t know, a sycophant is a category of brown-noser. How often I have read comments made by sycophants on famous people’s Facebook pages or twitter accounts in the deluded hope of a reply. Justin Bieber might tweet, “I like apples.” And you might imagine the thousands of affirmations of love and common interest that would follow. (I once asked a couple of sycophants on a Facebook page if they knew what the term meant. The answer was ‘an elephant with flu’)
There are better things to do with ones time than engage in delusions of being star crossed lovers with some celebrity thousands of miles away. Stop being STUPID.
14) If you are someone who (as a rule) does not laugh, you are the next target.
Laughing is fun. Don’t you like fun? Are you afraid someone might think you silly. Chances are they think you’re a sour puss. To do that intentionally is a little STUPID to say the least. To be nasty, vindictive or malicious as a rule will surely earn you zero support and 100% avoidance. This is surely a compromised position for anyone. Even goths have fellow goths.
15) Those who think paying more for something automatically equates to more value.
Marketers and elitest product promoters prey on people like you. They hope that you will pay an exuberant fee for something that costs the same to produce as the budget item. Sucker!
16) If you have managed to be the reason for litigation for the purpose of a product disclaimer, I wouldn’t feel proud.
YOLO is the most counter-intuitive trend possible. Shouting YOLO (you only live once) while doing some action which could end it all is STUPID.
16) Substance abusers.
If you have been netted by one of those super-rich addictive substance companies, it is not their fault. It’s yours. To blame them for your addiction would be like need to blaming a clothing store for providing the means to addiction for a kleptomaniac. It’s up to you to break the addiction.
18) Are you someone who overtakes vehicles on blind rises; who cuts over the centre barrier line when cornering; speeds down main streets; cuts in front of other drivers? Would you consider yourself the greatest driver on the planet and constantly try to prove it?
Chances are no one else would agree with you. Chances are they’re cursing you as you flip the finger while passing them. this is because you are a reckless driver.
The STUPID part comes in the following form of logic: nothing bad has come about from your driving habits……yet. Thinking that nothing bad will happen based on the premise that nothing bad has happened so far seems quite short-sighted. This is because its an invalid argument.
The problem with this inept attempt at reasoning is that once you are proved wrong, you probably wont be alive to go, “Oh…”
It makes more sense to rather drive like a normal human being, and leave the inclination to prove you’re a Hamilton or Schumacher. It simply is not worth it.
18) If you are thinking of committing suicide, add your name to the STUPID list.
You might be thinking that committing suicide is the ultimate revenge. You may even think that committing suicide is the only way to escape the people that are pressuring you in life.
Lets think about it a little deeper. Suicide might seem like your choice, but what is actually happening is a submission of power to all those who are making you feel depressed or frustrated.
Lets say there is one particular person who is causing you all this grief. When you think about it, is this individual deserving of your life? Is such a person deserving of all that power? Are you willing to submit all your memories, dreams, emotions and life experiences to someone that probably doesn’t even know of your anguish in the first place? Do you think that person is really going to think they’re the reason for your suicide?
The reality is that even if you had to leave a detailed suicide note explaining why that person is the reason for you exiting life, they will probably just think you were some crazy hack. Was that really worth it?
Here’s the other problem: chances are when you’ve committed suicide, you will be joining all those who have crossed over already. If you weren’t a fan of people in living life, you now get to spend all of eternity with more people than you can imagine. And you can’t commit suicide in the afterlife.
It might be a better option to change your attitude to life, accept that you are the one who has to live in your skin, and get on with laughing more, enjoying living and forget about revenge!
Please stay tuned for part 2….